Practice Self Awareness

Marshall Rosenberg, the father of Nonviolent Communication said that “Every criticism, judgment, diagnosis, and expression of anger is the tragic expression of an unmet need.” Peace requires that we develop the skills to recognize the needs, feelings and values that influence our perspective so that we can respond appropriately. Often, we react to situations and people that “push our buttons” instead of recognizing that our emotions are simply a guide to uncovering the unmet needs inside. Instead of looking outwards in blame and judgment, self-awareness helps us see our role in each interaction.

Learning to become aware of these feelings and needs helps us respond with compassion and understanding instead of in defense. It helps keep the channels of communication open and productive. A greater sense of self-awareness helps us learn about ourselves and ultimately become better, more empathic humans who can engage in productive and cooperative relationships.